Tuesday, September 29, 2020

Almost Didn't Post This

 


Actually had another post ready, but decided that this needed to go up. My first wife, Cynthia, passed away 21 years ago yesterday, after 14 days in the ICU where we prayed for the best and tried to prepare ourselves for the worst. Since then, God has granted me yet again the love of a wonderful woman, so although some people never achieve what I've been given, I am doubly blessed. Nevertheless, the influence of Cynthia on so many lives, including mine, will never be forgotten.

I started not to mark this anniversary (it happened 21 years ago), harkening to the advice of a dear friend: "Some anniversaries need not be observed in perpetuity."  I may follow that advice next year. Just not today.

6 comments:

Priscilla Bettis said...

I'm so glad you got to spend some time with Cynthia in this life before she passed on to the next.

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks, Priscilla--forty years of marriage, and almost 3 years before that. This means I have an aggregate total of almost sixty years of marriage. Fortunate.

Patricia Bradley said...

I won't say I know how you feel. My husband passed away 23 years ago March 31 and while I don't comment on social media about him, I always mark the anniversary in some way. We spent three months in either ICU or in a hospital room before he died.

So glad you had those years with her. And that you're blessed with another lovely wife.

Richard Mabry said...

Patricia, I almost knew what would follow when I read your first line: "I won't say I know how you feel." So very sorry for your own spouse's passing 23 years ago. We all feel, grieve, adjust a bit differently, and appreciate your sympathy. I had two weeks to prepare, you had three months. Don't know which is better/worse. Thanks for your comment.

Patricia Bradley said...

Even though you prepare, you aren't ready the day it happens. He'd beaten death so many times before, I just assumed he would again. Since he was older than I was, I always knew, barring something unusual, that he would go first. But you're never ready. "They" are right that time does help. That time in my life seems another lifetime ago. Almost like a dream.

Richard Mabry said...

And even now--21 and 23 years later--there are triggers. They're fewer, but perhaps they will always be there. Thanks for commenting.