Tuesday, August 25, 2020

"Tempus Fugit"

People consider themselves fortunate when they find the love of their life. I've been doubly fortunate, because after death took my first wife after 40 years of marriage, God sent another woman who taught me how to smile again. And, no--this isn't our anniversary, but a post on another site made me stop, look around, and see how much things have changed.

Recently I thought it would be neat to have dinner at one of the places where we first got together when we were going out. That's when I first discovered that time changes things. The restaurant where I proposed to her was out of business. So was another one we used to frequent during that time. I wanted to show her the ice cream parlor that my first wife and I used to go with friends after church, but it had become part of a row of businesses in a strip shopping center. And the church where my wife and I used to attend had changed so drastically that I almost didn't recognize it.

What's the lesson from all of this? Enjoy what you have when you have it, but don't try to revisit it years later. Thomas Wolfe said, "You can't go home again." I'd add, "You can't depend on things not changing. They do. So enjoy them while you can."


Priscilla Bettis said...

Yes, enjoy them! I trained hard for and won an athletic competition in which the prize was a fancy mug. I couldn't bring myself to use it. I didn't want to break it or whatever. A few years passed. I took the mug off the shelf and started using it, but the original thrill was gone. So much time had passed that it was no longer a special mug. I missed the opportunity to enjoy drinking from my prize mug while it was still a big deal.

Patricia Bradley said...

That's one reason I hate to go back to where I grew up. Everything has changed so much since then. And I agree with Priscilla--use your good china!

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks to you both for your comments. Yes, use that mug, or good china, or whatever else. Don't save them for another day. We may not have one.