Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Correcting Others

When I began posting on Facebook, it was mainly to get the word out about my writing. Along the way, I accepted "friend" invitations, not only from people I knew, but also from potential readers. Since I had no way of knowing who fell into the latter group, I tended to accept virtually all of them.

Lately, I have had occasion to do a couple of things. First, I've had to "unfollow," and occasionally "unfriend" people because they have made comments on my posts and those of others that I felt were over the line. Second, I've begun looking through my friends list--and, honestly, I don't recognize many of them and don't know why I accepted them in the first place.

For a while I attempted to correct misapprehensions among some of the people who posted--what masks are supposed to do, my understanding about vaccines, and so on. It's not so much that I disagreed as that I felt, as a physician, I should correct any errors that were obvious. But it's gotten to be too much. It has been pointed out to me that it's not up to me to correct or change the minds of every person with whose comments I disagreed.

In the future, I'll confine myself to what I post on my own blog--"stuff" on Tuesdays and "the writing life" on Fridays. If I have something that I think needs to be said, I'll post it on social media, but not daily. The same goes for my posts on Facebook.com/rmabrybooks.

So, unless I have something important to say, I plan to be mainly silent. Agree? Disagree? Here's your chance (and venue) to chime in.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

I understand PERFECTLY. It isn't "Eggs and Issues" at Cliff Temple anymore, is it? I keep a lot of friends (carefully cultivated and known) with whom I thoroughly disagree in order to listen to views that are different from mine (a healthy position I think), but some mime production machines are becoming a chore to have to endure.

Les Morriss said...

Annonymous is Les Morriss

May my words outlive me. said...

I enjoy your Facebook posts as someone who is intelligent and kind. I don’t always comment although I believe like you do. It’s discouraging how cruel some are, and because I hurt easily, I’ve learned to keep my opinions to myself. Or share with likeminded people. You are never cruel. God bless.

Richard Mabry said...

Well-said, Les. And it's good to see/hear you here. Maybe it's the mime machines, but there are some comments on various FB posts (not mine, thank goodness) that are too misguided (in my opinion, of course) to ignore. Whether we agree or disagree, I'm glad to read your opinions...and the adventures of "naked man." (Let them look at your posts to see what that is).

Richard Mabry said...

And whoever you are, "May my words outlive me," thanks for agreeing...or disagreeing, if that occurs...but doing it in a gentle way. My blog is one of the last things in social media that only I control--I plan to stick with that for awhile.

Betti said...

I appreciate what you are saying and doing! I will admit, I have decided not to comment on many a post whether I agree or disagree with it. It has saved my sanity and I have unfollowed and unfriended as well. I enjoy your blog and your posts even though I don’t comment often. It is wonderful to hear the voice of reason! Thank you.

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks, Betti. It's hard not to comment when I know what is posted is wrong, but 1) it never changes anyone's mind, and 2) it runs my blood pressure up. We'll see how long this lasts.

Patricia Bradley said...

I rarely post my opinion anymore--if I do, I end up mad. lol. I've hidden posts that I don't want to appear on my page on FB so many times, FB finally got the message and quit showing my posts to the person I was hiding. :-) I love reading your blog so I hope you keep it up!

Nancy said...

I agree. Been there. Done that. I've chosen to do very little social media. It makes me a happier person. I enjoy your blog and your books. I've read them all. Hang in there.

Richard Mabry said...

Nancy, I appreciate those encouraging words.

Richard Mabry said...

Patricia, I'll continue the blog, but for now I'm trying (sometimes without success) to avoid FB.