Tuesday, June 12, 2018


Ever find yourself comparing your life with someone else's--and wishing yours were different? Writers are especially prone to this. We see a post about another writer's success, and (at least for a moment) some of us turn green.

I used to envy other authors, but the more I got to know some of them, the more I found out they had their own problems--you'd be surprised how many. The same holds true of people in almost every walk of life. The old Indian saying has a lot of truth in it: "Don't judge another until you've walked a mile in their moccasins." (Of course, one of my friends adds, "By then you're a mile away from them and you have their shoes.")

One of the quotations I like best is this one from Steven Furtick, a pastor in North Carolina: "The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." Think about that the next time you get upset after reading someone's post on social media or receive a Christmas letter that sends you running for the headache remedy.

Don't get frustrated by seeing what someone else has. Maybe you're just seeing their highlight reel.

Let me know in the comments what you think about this. Although Blogger is having some problems, and I don't currently get notified of comments, I'll get around to them eventually.

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Priscilla Bettis said...

Of course I've had times in my life when I've been envious, but I'm basically a pretty content person. Having the best husband in the whole world helps.:-) I don't have an Instagram account. I've often suspected the images are highlight reels, so I'm in no hurry to join Instagram. (I shouldn't pick on IG. I don't have a FB account, either.)

Blogger hasn't been notifying me of comments on my blog, either. Maybe it's a GDPR thing.

Richard Mabry said...

Priscilla, thanks for your comment and congratulations on being pretty content. I confess that, despite my best efforts, I sometimes envy the success of others. But I'll keep on trying.
Blogger says they're "working on" the problem of the missing notifications. Hope they work faster.

Jackie Smith said...

Love this post, Richard! I agree with Steve's comment, too.
Life is too short to spend it being envious!

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks, Jackie, for your comment.

Debbie Rhoades said...

Dr. Mabry, Steven is one of my favorite pastors! I agree, usually, if you get a good look at those you are envying, you find out their life isn't all that peachy-keen. I love reading your emails and look forward to Tuesday's and Fridays so that I can see what news you come up with next!

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks, Debbie. I appreciate that. (Makes me want to spend even more time on my blogs).

Patricia Bradley said...

If envy is wanting what the other person has instead of the other person getting it, then I don't think I've ever envied anyone. But if envy is wanting them to have it, but I want it, too, then, yeah I've envied others. :-) Great post, Richard!

Richard Mabry said...

Thanks, Patricia--I wish Blogger would get their act together and resume notifying me of comments. Sorry to be late in responding. I have to admit that envy sometimes strikes me when I see what's going on with other authors. Of course, as I noted above, this is their high-light reel, whereas I only see the nitty-gritty of my own situation.